Here’s what I wrote on FaceBook early in this new year:
I usually come up with a personal theme each new year, a guiding thought. This year, it’s “Do what you love.” As I regroup after a hectic holiday season, I think about the 5 a.m. wakeup tomorrow to get my dear daughter up for her first day back to school. Blechhh! I don’t want to leave my cozy holiday cocoon–morning coffee in the glow of Christmas tree lights, pondering the lyrics of seasonal music, the warmth of connecting with so many dear people these past weeks. Going back to the old and usual doesn’t feel much like doing what I love, but isn’t it, really? And, if not, what will I do to change it? So, tomorrow, I’ll make it my good pleasure to wake up with my daughter. It’ll be my joy to sit down at my computer, work on my blog, pay bills, and put in some hours at my job. Do the dishes, plan dinner, solve some personal problems, take down the Christmas tree. All in peace and comfort, and with joy. Until God sends me to do something else. That’ll be something I love, too; I know it.
Ah, so sweet and peaceful was I…
Here’s what my FB post, had I written one then, would read a mere three days later:
Peace and comfort and joy? Yeah, right! Getting my teenager out the door for school after a long holiday vacation is like waiting for molasses to pour out of a measuring cup and into the bowl. The last time I signed her into school late, I wrote in the Reason For Lateness column: “Ask her!” The Christmas tree’s needles are crunchy and brown and falling off in waves, and why did I feel compelled to put so many dang ornaments on it?!? Our kitchen counters aren’t cleaned off all the way yet, and the laundry is piled high in the bedroom. We need groceries, and my dear mother needs a ride to the dentist. I have work (the kind that pays) to do. I’m tired! Next year, I’ll handle Christmas differently…
Uh-huh. Maybe. But, instead of getting on my own case about what’s done and what needs doing, I’m deciding to let it all the heck GO! And be easy on myself, for heaven’s sake.
In October, I revised my list of goals/visions from last year, labeling it “REVISION.” Here’s a piece of it:
I jotted this on a tiny piece of note paper in about 6 minutes. A very inspired and inspiring woman encouraged me years ago to write a list of what I wanted down on paper, to create a vision for my life, in detail. She’d done it and wound up achieving what she’d envisioned. I didn’t attempt mine until years later. Recently, to my surprise, when I looked over the things on my first one, almost everything had been achieved, acquired, or improved. (Cool, right?) So I had to write a new one!
Why don’t you try writing a vision list? Here’s what I did:
- Sat in a coffee shop, alone, having hot coffee and an egg sandwich.
- Realized how right and good it is for me to eat a decent breakfast.
- Looked at my FaceBook notifications on my phone.
- Realized it might be better for me to put the dang phone down and enjoy my food and the atmosphere and the freedom I have to just be there in that cute little coffee shop.
- Felt cranky because it was too warm for October in my neck of the woods.
- Felt cranky because I thought I would know by then what I was going to do next with my life.
- Realized it’s good to be in touch with my feelings, and even better to do something about them.
- Eventually started to notice what I was thinking about.
- Put what I was thinking about on paper, using one of my favorite pens. Plus, the paper was from a note pad that one of my favorite peeps gave me.
- Realized for the zillionth time that, noticing is important, starting with noticing how I’m doing, if I’m hungry, what I’m longing for.
- Realized I felt extremely grateful.
- Whispered “Thank You” to God.
FYI: I wrote this second list in October. Now it’s time to write the next one. Because all but one thing on this list has happened. Exciting! Top of the next list? “Do what I love”–my aforementioned theme for this new year. I’m pretty sure I’ll be posting some day about how that’s going.
If you write a vision list for yourself, I’d sure like to know what it was like for you, how you did it, and/or how things are happening in your life as a result. You can comment on this post, or send a message. And, always, I appreciate getting “Likes” on my posts, if you’re so inclined. Thanks for reading!
BTW: The talented and kind woman who inspired me to write my first list is Kathy Dempsey. I read her first book, Shed or You’re Dead 31 Unconventional Strategies for Growth & Change, which tells her hard-to-believe personal story and how it inspired her to achieve mucho success inspiring others. You can get to her web site here.